Rating: ★★★ (3 stars)
Title: Preparing My Daughter For Rain
Author: Key Ballah
Where to buy: Preparing My Daughter For Rain
Summary: A book of lessons dedicated to our daughters and future daughters, on how to survive. (Source: Goodreads)
Content Warnings: mention of scars, mental illness, mention of self-induced vomiting, threat, misandry, racism.
What I liked…
Key Ballah’s title of her poetry collection is incredibly powerful. It immediately establishes the intention and tone of the collection. The cover is an image of a woman and a child, who I am presuming is Key Ballah and her mother, which creates an intimate quality to the poetry. The poetry collection is divided into four sections: The Body, The Heart, The Land, and the Soul. The names refer to areas that Ballah wishes her future child to nurture in particular, which I found rather beautiful.
I identified with some of Ballah’s poetry, but I identified more with Ballah’s lines – some of them contained worlds and ultimately inspired me!
These are your body politics,
it’s okay not to trust yourself.
(The Body, p.9)
This particular line hit me hard. Ballah articulates mental illness and/or low self-esteem as something that governs us while at the same time tries to gain our trust by deception, or rather unhealthy coping mechanisms.
I carry in my mouth,
all of the words that my mother never
got a chance to speak into me.
(The Land, p.58)
The Land section is my favourite, but this particular opening line stood out to me. Ballah informs the reader that not only has she written the words for her future child, but she has carried her words. Furthermore, Ballah desires to input those words into her child, this is a special type of metaphor called a conduit metaphor. The idea of speaking words into someone articulates that we are containers of thoughts, feelings, and ideas.
What I disliked…
So, I started reading this poetry collection with the idea that it would be feminist due to the title. However, I suddenly became uncomfortable. Ballah begins to discuss that women are beautiful (which I agree that they are), then how “blessed” her daughter is to be a woman.
Moreover, Ballah assumes in this poem that her daughter will be heterosexual.
When he says your name like tidal waves
and kisses you like a midnight in July.
Hold him close,
project your thanks to the heavens,
and find that you’ve been waiting for
in the closeness of your skin.
(The Heart, p.30)
I again understand the intention with this poem, but why not make it gender-neutral as Ballah cannot possibly know the sexuality of her future child. Also, the child may be asexual or aromantic! Why assume anything at all?
Then, Ballah implies that men are lazy for not being able to handle a woman.
I only ever asked him
to love me deeply
but he still turned around
that I was too heavy
that I was asking too much,
that he was only one man.
After him I learned,
it takes two men to do,
the work of one woman.
(The Heart, p.42)
I acknowledge Ballah’s intention with this particular piece, but its impact came across as misandristic.
Next, Ballah draws on a well-known story about Adam and Eve, but states that Adam is an affliction upon Eve:
The bible says,
that Eve’s sin was punished by pain in
But the older I get and the more that I
It has become clear to me that Eve’s
punishment wasn’t the pain,
her punishment was Adam himself.
(The Heart, p.44)
I find the resolution of the poem a rather radical statement, which comes across as misandristic. Additionally, if you view Eve as women and Adam as men, the poem comes across as really resentful and hostile towards men.
Why did you read it?
I love reading fellow indie poets’ work! The title drew me in.
Does the author have other works?
Key Ballah has written another poetry collection titled Skin & Sun.
If you enjoy poetry that contains positive affirmations and universal truths, then this is probably for you. However, I think the collection needs revising in certain areas as sometimes, its impact overruled its intention.
– Melissa Jennings